aka: The things I wish someone taught me when I was a pre-teen girl. Dating should be about figuring out what you want and what you don’t want. For some reason when I was young I had this mentality that every person I dated was going to be “forever.” I can remember even as young as […]
I was looking through old photos on the computer this week. One of the many minor hassles that came out of disentangling my life with The Narcissist was that I needed to completely start my electronic life over again… email addresses, passwords, new computer, new iCloud accounts, new phone accounts… on and on. I had […]
“if someone has ever wronged you in life, be loud about it. don’t sit in silence, don’t allow the people who have hurt you to feel like they’ve gotten off easily. write about it if you need to, yell about it if you damn well please but do not let them fucking silence you. forgive […]
I ran two marathons while I was married to The Narcissist. A marathon is an accomplishment at any rate, but it feels extra monumental for me. I was not a runner… I was pretty much the opposite of a runner when I met The Narcissist. I had never run more than a 1/2 mile in […]
It just keeps getting worse… this news is particularly hard to take. Trump plans to eliminate 25 violence against women grant programs as way to cut spending Donald Trump’s staff has big plans to cut government spending, the most startling of which is a proposal to eliminate the Department of Justice’s violence against women grant […]
This weekend I had the pleasure of participating in the Boston Women’s March for America, and found the entire experience to be deeply moving. I’ve been on a kick of empowerment lately which has been awesome – and that is the best word that I can think of to describe participating in the march… empowering! […]
My life has gotten to a point where most days I am able to get through without even remembering that I was once mentally, emotionally and physically abused. I’ve put in the work, I’ve done the healing, and where many things used to make me think of the abuse or at the very least the […]
The Narcissist had spent nearly 8 years completely shifting my life around so that he was at the center of everything. What I never realized at the time is that these manipulations were done by design as a method of control and coercion to make it feel nearly impossible for me to ever leave him. […]
Life with The Narcissist had me on a constant quest for perfection. I was living in a state of always feeling like I wasn’t enough in some way, shape or form. I wasn’t pretty enough, thin enough, sexy enough, fit enough, loving enough, affectionate enough, smart enough… you name it, I felt it. No matter […]
If you haven’t read it already, I highly encourage you to go back and read about The Christmas Tree Incident… which was for all intents and purposes the breaking point for my marriage to The Narcissist. That event happened just about this time last year. From where I stand today, it feels like a different […]
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