It has been far, far too long since I posted and I am sorry! In complete transparency I have 5 draft blog posts half-written and staring at me waiting to be finished… but I have been very, extremely distracted with a really crappy situation going on at work. I promise to write about it all […]
When news stories like this one arise I feel so many things. I feel sadness and horror about the actual event, I feel the connection of the similarities I have experienced in my own abusive marriage, and I feel very thankful that I was able to survive the domestic violence and leave safely. It is […]
Time is a funny thing… it goes by in the blink of an eye, yet it can feel like a lifetime at the same time. That is how I would probably describe this past year… I cannot believe how fast it has gone by, yet where I was this time last year literally feels like […]
I was a big Fiona Apple fan in college, back when I had my own music library and my own ability to chose the music that I liked best. Long before The Narcissist made me delete all of the music that I loved and only listen to things that he liked. I heard this gem […]
Dear First Wife, When I fell in love him I had no idea that you existed. He was most certainly not wearing a wedding ring, he never slipped it into our endless conversations that he was married and the group of his colleagues that I met never hinted that I was actually becoming the other woman. […]
Anger seemed to be a constant topic of discussion in my marriage and divorce with The Narcissist, and I wanted to break it down a bit into the big categories of Anger throughout my time with The Narcissist and my healing process post-divorce: His Anger – he came back from a deployment and for a period […]
One of the things that I have really enjoyed about my healing process after narcissistic abuse is that there is so much healing that takes place without your awareness. I love reflecting back on a situation or something I’ve done and realizing that this is new territory for me, that something has shifted, that things […]
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how I actually made the decision to leave The Narcissist and what my mental and emotional state was like during that time frame. I think that I had my own preconceived ideas of what it would be like when I knew it was time to leave… that it […]
The Narcissist liked to leave me places when he was angry. He did it a lot just by walking away from me in a mall or a grocery store… or if we were out running he would sprint off so fast there was no way I could catch up. I can’t even tell you how […]
I saw a post on my Facebook feed the other day about how dogs are aware of people who are mean to their owners and have actually been proven to refuse treats from people that mistreated their owners. Dogs Snub People Who Are Mean to Their Owners: Study This reminded me of the fact that my […]
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