Life has been busy and full of change and growth over the last 2 months! I still have so many stories to share on this blog and I will continue to do so as they come, but I am sorry that they are not as regular as they once were! Just wanted to let you […]
Time is a funny thing… it goes by in the blink of an eye, yet it can feel like a lifetime at the same time. That is how I would probably describe this past year… I cannot believe how fast it has gone by, yet where I was this time last year literally feels like […]
Dear First Wife, When I fell in love him I had no idea that you existed. He was most certainly not wearing a wedding ring, he never slipped it into our endless conversations that he was married and the group of his colleagues that I met never hinted that I was actually becoming the other woman. […]
Anger seemed to be a constant topic of discussion in my marriage and divorce with The Narcissist, and I wanted to break it down a bit into the big categories of Anger throughout my time with The Narcissist and my healing process post-divorce: His Anger – he came back from a deployment and for a period […]
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how I actually made the decision to leave The Narcissist and what my mental and emotional state was like during that time frame. I think that I had my own preconceived ideas of what it would be like when I knew it was time to leave… that it […]
If you haven’t read it already, I highly encourage you to go back and read about The Christmas Tree Incident… which was for all intents and purposes the breaking point for my marriage to The Narcissist. That event happened just about this time last year. From where I stand today, it feels like a different […]
Today would be my 8 year wedding anniversary with The Narcissist. This time of year with the anniversary and the holidays and all of it certainly reminds me of him and makes me reflect back on the experience of it all a bit. I’ve realized that one of the most substantial and empowering parts of […]
I received a comment / question from Jane Doe this morning which has inspired me to discuss this topic a bit further. So much of my passion around this blog is helping other people identify the abuse that they are living in and find the information and strength to get out. Jane Doe indicated that […]
My Narcissist was a black hole of neediness. He required that I constantly be pouring love, affection, confirmation, etc. etc. at him. He needed constant proof and evidence that he was the most important thing to me. He was exhausting in every sense of the word… and he literally sucked the life out of me. […]
For a long time after I moved out of my house and left the Narcissist I did not feel like I was ready to meet new people or start dating again. I went through a brief phase where I almost felt like I had to do it because he had moved on so rapidly. So […]
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