I’ve always been a huge fan of poetry and used to dabble in writing it myself. I found that in the early days post separation from The Narcissist, I related a lot to the words of poets like r.h. sin. He has a new book out “I hope this reaches her too” which I think will resonate […]
I’ve essentially been on hiatus for the summer months… from work, from stress and from writing. The good news is that I landed a wonderful job where I am currently being valued and respected and using my skill set in an awesome way. The other good news is that I’ve had thoughts flowing around in […]
Life has been busy and full of change and growth over the last 2 months! I still have so many stories to share on this blog and I will continue to do so as they come, but I am sorry that they are not as regular as they once were! Just wanted to let you […]
Time is a funny thing… it goes by in the blink of an eye, yet it can feel like a lifetime at the same time. That is how I would probably describe this past year… I cannot believe how fast it has gone by, yet where I was this time last year literally feels like […]
I was a big Fiona Apple fan in college, back when I had my own music library and my own ability to chose the music that I liked best. Long before The Narcissist made me delete all of the music that I loved and only listen to things that he liked. I heard this gem […]
One of the things that I have really enjoyed about my healing process after narcissistic abuse is that there is so much healing that takes place without your awareness. I love reflecting back on a situation or something I’ve done and realizing that this is new territory for me, that something has shifted, that things […]
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how I actually made the decision to leave The Narcissist and what my mental and emotional state was like during that time frame. I think that I had my own preconceived ideas of what it would be like when I knew it was time to leave… that it […]
The Narcissist had spent nearly 8 years completely shifting my life around so that he was at the center of everything. What I never realized at the time is that these manipulations were done by design as a method of control and coercion to make it feel nearly impossible for me to ever leave him. […]
A while back I was fuming because I found out that on top of everything else The Narcissist also screwed me out of a significant amount of money through our divorce. I sat on the information for a while and after the anger and frustration of it all subsided I decided that I was just […]
I got in my early vote this morning. 🙂 ` Today was the first election since I met The Narcissist that I was able to vote for the candidates and questions the ways that I believed in. I didn’t have to argue for my opinions to the point of exhaustion. I wasn’t made to feel […]
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