Earlier on in my marriage to the Narcissist when I was still trying to win the trophy wife of the year award we had an incident with Chocolate Covered Strawberries of all things. I can’t quite remember why but I had planned a special evening for the Narcissist and I…. but I had planned an […]
My last week has been fabulous. It is truly amazing how no contact has had such a profound effect on my mental and emotional well being. That one week of seeing the Narcissist a few times to get my stuff back really messed with me… but I am back on track and feeling better than […]
This weekend I was reminded of one of the emotional abuse techniques that the Narcissist used to use to make me feel worthless. The Narcissist had successfully cut me off from pretty much everyone I knew before I met him. In the end I only had limited relationships with some of my family members and not […]
I’ve had a few “major” breakups in my life and have experienced the feeling of closure of a relationship in a few different ways… There was my first ‘real’ boyfriend a 3 year high school relationship. He broke up with me for a girl that worked at the super market with him… who he was […]
Before I met the Narcissist I pretty much identified as Atheist. I grew up being somewhat forced into the Catholic religion because my mom was raised that way. I think she felt like she wanted to give my sister and I a religious experience in life… but it always felt a bit shallow to me. […]
The more work I do to unravel my own reality from the reality that the Narcissist was desperately trying to drill into my head, the more I start to realize the various techniques that came into play to keep me continually confused. Two of the main methods that my Narcissist used frequently were Cognitive Dissonance […]
Originally posted on After Narcissistic Abuse:
One of the hardest things about narcissistic abuse and going no contact, is getting to that point in time where we cross the line from WANTING the narcissist to love us & being devastated by the feelings that they don’t, along with everything that means to us and ACCEPTING…
Today’s rant is brought to you by my breaking the no contact rule. Every time I do it there is a logical reason for it, and then I suffer as a result. In the several times I have broken my own no contact rule I have been left feeling used, foolish, stupid, worthless… and ANGRY. […]
There are so many things about being in a relationship with a narcissist that can cause you psychological and emotional damage. Just one of the many things that my Narcissist had going on was the never-ending quest for perfection. Over time, I believed this morphed into full-blown OCD, but in the beginning it started out […]
Its been an emotional week for me. I had a pretty intense EMDR / Brainspotting session on Monday night and ever since I have been feeling pretty raw and emotional. I have cried at random on several occasions… while cooking, when a sad song came on my playlist, while driving home from work. I’m talking deep […]
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