I had a random memory last night of something that The Narcissist used to do towards the end of our marriage that drove me absolutely crazy. As with most things involving The Narcissist this simple memory sent me down a spiral of other memories and resulted in me doing a bit of research this morning. […]
It has been far, far too long since I posted and I am sorry! In complete transparency I have 5 draft blog posts half-written and staring at me waiting to be finished… but I have been very, extremely distracted with a really crappy situation going on at work. I promise to write about it all […]
“if someone has ever wronged you in life, be loud about it. don’t sit in silence, don’t allow the people who have hurt you to feel like they’ve gotten off easily. write about it if you need to, yell about it if you damn well please but do not let them fucking silence you. forgive […]
My life has gotten to a point where most days I am able to get through without even remembering that I was once mentally, emotionally and physically abused. I’ve put in the work, I’ve done the healing, and where many things used to make me think of the abuse or at the very least the […]
Since the very first time I came across the terms Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Narcissistic abuse, I have spent a great deal of time doing research on these topics. I strongly believe that knowledge is power and I have found that understanding exactly what was going on in my marriage has been the key to […]
By the time I knew deep in my gut that there was something very wrong with my marriage, my ex had already stopped being physically violent. I struggled daily with identifying exactly what it was that was really wrong about the entire situation. I believed my ex when he placed all of the blame on me. […]
Earlier on in my marriage to the Narcissist when I was still trying to win the trophy wife of the year award we had an incident with Chocolate Covered Strawberries of all things. I can’t quite remember why but I had planned a special evening for the Narcissist and I…. but I had planned an […]
The more work I do to unravel my own reality from the reality that the Narcissist was desperately trying to drill into my head, the more I start to realize the various techniques that came into play to keep me continually confused. Two of the main methods that my Narcissist used frequently were Cognitive Dissonance […]
Today’s rant is brought to you by my breaking the no contact rule. Every time I do it there is a logical reason for it, and then I suffer as a result. In the several times I have broken my own no contact rule I have been left feeling used, foolish, stupid, worthless… and ANGRY. […]
Part of the abuse cycle with a Narcissist (and other personality disorders as well) is the crazy-making or gaslighting. Through this tactic, the Narcissist distorts your reality so much that you end up jumping through hoops to give them what they want and achieve their approval. As time goes on, you know that something isn’t right […]
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